Missing out on the info
Missing out on the info
"Omg guys this weekend I went s…"(cut off by another friend) "skiing? Snowboarding? Oh no way skydiving?!!" and that right there is the sound of a sentence finisher. Is anyone here a sentence finisher? I am guilty as charged. Recently, I caught myself in the moment guessing what a friend was about to say as if I’m just expecting something out of them that’s not the actual answer. Immediately after, I keep thinking to myself, “Wow! Listening is a big struggle for me.”
I realized the art of listening plays an essential role in our lives that we look past every day. There are no classes for listening, yet our entire education is based off of this skill, just like our relationships are with people and God. We have to listen to learn in school, we have to listen to the clients at our jobs in order to help and we have to listen to communicate in any type of relationship. I asked myself, "Why do people not listen? Besides the "I just don’t" comment. I gained knowledge that most people don’t listen when someone’s talking because they’re either distracted, thinking up a following answer in their heads, or 50% of the time thinking about what to eat for lunch. But the thing is, as imperfect humans, we all have this thirst to be in control, longing to know what’s best for ourselves. It acts as a wall against our relationship with God because one thing God always says is to abide by listening and your heart will be at peace. God does not command you to plan your life on your own, then listen to Him after everything. “I will listen to what God the Lord says; he promises peace to his people, his faithful servants— but let them not turn to folly.” Psalm 85:8
When people stop being open to listening to each other, it can cause a dent in the relationship. Think about it. People spend tons of money for therapy or counseling most times because they won’t listen to each other. It’s just like our relationship with God. We can sit there and follow our own human desires or we can listen to the good God has planned for us. God is always so faithful and knows what is best for us. He’s always been there, but the problem is listening. We’re not listening to God’s voice, but letting our voices drown out God’s.
In the end, just like not listening during a lesson in class, it will affect you during test time. When you choose to not listen, closing your ears to others, you miss out on important information. You can miss the information on how your teen has been feeling and how to solve the lack of communication between you two. It can also be finishing someone’s sentence for them, predicting the words that will fall from their mouth, stopping you from hearing the truth. The downfall of closing our ears off is even played when not listening to God because you instead choose to magnify on the enemies lies and how you think the story of your life will go when God is the author of it all. When we don’t listen, we don’t get the full story, resulting in us making up our own prediction which is false. As it says in Proverbs 18:13,"If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame."
Let me leave you with this: Don’t let the relationships you have disintegrate just because your listening was late and your prediction was early!
Alexi Markou, Truth with Spirit Christian Blogger